Separation and Divorce Resources

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“Buckle up. This is going to one ugly ride.”
“That isn't actually ‘custody’ —that's actually called ‘access’.”
“Make sure you hire Lawyer X so you don’t get taken to the cleaners.”
“My sister tried that and I know it doesn’t work.”
"That's going to be hard since you are the dad and not the mom”.
“You have no option but to go to Court.”
“It’s a total gong show.  Don’t even try to understand it.”
“My niece and nephew were able to choose where they want to live.”
“You need a legal separation.”
“You definitely need sole custody to do that.”
“You have to go to court to get a divorce."

If you are in the early stages of separating or divorcing, of course it does. These are just some of the pieces of information you are getting from well-intended friends, relatives or maybe your hairdresser. But did they go to law school? 

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There are varying degrees of credibility and applicability. Plus, one person's experience is not an accurate predictor for YOUR experience.

In my over 15 years as a lawyer, social worker and mediator,  I can honestly say, how you begin your separation process is a crucial time. It often sets the trajectory for the entire journey.

That means, if you want to write a new kind of separation story, you need to get personalized, professional and knowledgable information in the very early stages. Someone who will work with you or, ideally, both of you, to help you sort through the legal details that apply to your family situation and give you an informed perspective grounded in years of reliable experience.

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• Understand what legal terminology such as: access, custody, primary residence, parenting plans, separation agreements, child support, spousal support and family property—actually means.

• Learn the differences between your process options for separation and divorce such as mediation, collaborative law and going to court—in terms of how each feels, looks, and sounds.

• Receive recommendations to free government resources that can help you.

• Feel reassured that you can each receive affordable, accountable and reliable information that levels the playing field at a time of crisis.

• Realize that your have choices, options and support; separating or divorcing DOES NOT have to mean war.

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